Everything you do is based on the choices you make. Its not your parents. Its not your past. Its not your past relationships. Its not your job, the economy. the weather. Or an argument of your age that is to blame. You and only you are responsible for every decision and choice you make. Period.
All Negativity is an accumulation of the present. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry-all forms of fear, are caused by too much future and not enough present.
Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness. bitterness- all forms of nonforgiveness, are caused by too much past and not enough present.
Black and white thinking, exaggerating, filtering, catastrophizing, judging, mind reading, forecasting, feelings as facts, labeling, self-blaming, hopelessness, helplessness and worthlessness.